Narcissism is an overwhelming and confusing topic. But when you reveal its mask, you see that it is basically a lie, told to those who are vulnerable.
Narcissistic abuse, by nature, is designed to keep you trapped in shame-based vertigo. It doesn’t just go away because you know it exists. Narcissism creates a set of beliefs, behaviours and paradigms in its target which must be changed from the inside.
Whether you are dealing with a narcissistic lover, parent, husband, wife, friend, boss or colleague, the same philosophy will apply. After reading ‘How To Kill A Narcissist’, you will:
Become aware of the damage narcissistic abuse has done to your psyche and how to heal it
See how the narcissist uses shame as a weapon to fool you into feeling inferior
Understand the playing field which narcissists thrive on and how to stop playing their game
Learn how the narcissist uses mind control to break down and rebuild your identity for the purpose of subjugation
Gain tools for disarming a narcissist i.e. starving them of their narcissistic supply
Have taken a closer look beyond the label of narcissistic personality disorder
Using an inside-out approach, ‘How To Kill A Narcissist’ presents the seven practices for recovery and healing from a narcissistic relationship:
Get allies: Boost self-esteem through limbic resonance.
Give shape to your True Self: Uncover disowned parts of the Self and restore wholeness.
Skill up: Empower yourself by learning new skills to challenge your self-limiting beliefs.
Flex your muscles: Challenge the psychological cage and come out of hiding by asserting yourself despite of your shame.
Even the scale: Restore balance to your relationships by balancing the distribution of shame.
Boundaries: Foster a strong sense of Self and firmly protect it.
Scorched earth: Disengage your emotions from those who wish to manipulate you by skilfully using contempt to change your perception of them.
Each practice is designed to instil you with independence, strength, emotional resilience and awareness while allowing you to cultivate balanced, loving relationships and pursue a life of passion.
This is the art of killing a narcissist.
"This was the only narcissism book I’ve read that gave me hope. After a lifetime of psychological abuse I can hardly express how surprised I was to feel that. In the middle of reading it, I felt a longtime queasy knot in my stomach come undone. I don’t know what to say about the title other than to please look past it because it doesn’t reflect what’s inside."
"I found this book to be extremely useful. It helped with both understanding the narcissistic environment and with charting a course forward. Many would-be resources on this topic offer a single solution: FLEE! Simon's book goes so much farther giving the reader the understanding and tools necessary to have a variety of ways to respond to a narcissistic relationship. You can't always just leave."
"Best book about understanding and moving on... If you are in the process of recovering from narcissistic abuse I highly recommend this book."