Shattering The Myth

The great enemy of the truth is very often not the lie, deliberate, contrived and dishonest, but the myth, persistent, persuasive and unrealistic.

- John F. Kennedy

The battle begins when you accept that the abusive imbalance you have been experiencing between yourself and the narcissist is not what relationships are about. The narcissist has compromised your self-esteem, and they did it by breaking the rules. You didn’t have common respect, a shared shame, warmth, understanding and empathy. You tried to play a game of basketball with someone who, instead of bouncing the ball correctly, watching their fouls and respecting the rules, kicked you in the shins then sprinted off and scored the basket. You need to accept that despite this unacceptable style of play, you didn’t know better, and continued to respect the rules and play while being walked all over. Now, you wi...