The Blame Game

Living well is the best revenge.

- George Herbert

Being on the receiving end of narcissism generates bucket loads of rage and frustration. For some of us, it began in childhood by the very people entrusted to care for us when we had no say. Some of us let down our guard while assuming the golden rule and spent years embroiled in drama and emotional misery before finally waking up to the truth. But now the cat is out of the bag. You look down on this dark, horrible truth, feeling used and full of anger. You point your finger. You need an object of rage for all the wasted time and needless suffering.

While we can blame the narcissists in our life, we can also foolishly turn on ourselves. We can blame ourselves for falling for the mind games. W...