What To Do When You Sexually Miss Your Narcissistic Ex

Libido is life force. Whether you have been sexually active for some time, or if you derive self-esteem from being sexually desired, or even if you use sex to cope with emotional pain — there is another way.

Libido can be redirected in infinite ways toward a plethora of creative acts. Start by sitting with the feeling. Focus on it in your body. Enjoy your turn-on. You are alive, and you have life energy flowing through you. This is a beautiful thing.

Rather than seeing your sexual turn-on as a hindrance, or something you need to ‘get out of your system’, see it as power flowing through you. Do you really want to give up that power to your ex? This simple paradigm shift can be immensely transformative.

At first, the change won’t be dramatic; you will just fee...