In the same way you gave up your power to a narcissist, they continue to control you through your anger. What they say, how they act, how they treat you, what they do and the decisions they make; you have decided that the narcissist can press your anger button in such ways.
Anger is an uncomfortable emotion. It is also stigmatised in society. Being angry, in and of its own, is ‘immoral’. However, being angry at someone absolves us of that immorality. They did something wrong, and so we have the right to feel our anger.
Anger is an emotional energy which has to go somewhere. There is no way around it. You can repress your anger, deny it, and reject it, but it will express itself one way or another. Passive aggression. Physical illness.Finding an enemy and directing it at t...