Debating A Narcissist Is Bad For Your Health

Two phrases you rarely hear from a narcissist are: “I’m sorry” and “I don’t know”.

A narcissist may apologise when they are at risk of losing narcissistic supply. But ultimately, they are sorry because their supply is slipping through their fingers, not because they hurt someone.

However, narcissists never do not know something. To admit a lack of knowledge is to admit lack. To admit lack is to be in touch with one’s shame. And when a narcissist touches on the repressed shame of being neglected, abused and/or instrumentalised throughout childhood, they step on an emotional landmine.

As a result, narcissists never deepen their self-knowledge or wordly wisdom, because truth and reality rarely touch the narcissist’s True Self. To help avoid the risk of admitting a lack of knowledge, the narcissist creates an aura of all-knowingness via their false self. The most comical way they achieve this is by simply declaring ‘I knew that’. Even when our gut tells us oth...