What Makes A Narcissist Irresistible

Before you got mixed up in a narcissist’s dystopia, you laid eyes on them — and found them irresistible. I would propose, however, that it was not the narcissist’s physical attractiveness which lured you in, but rather that the attraction was Oedipal.

Most targets of narcissists have parents who exhibit Cluster B personality disorder traits. The parent might be a textbook narcissist, or a textbook borderline with pronounced grandiosity, or a borderline with a narcissistic overlay. In some cases, the parent might be malignant and psychopathic. At the very least, the parent will exhibit codependent and controlling traits.

In all such cases, the parent would have a certain demeanour about them, especially in the presence of their children. They may appear rigid, col...