How to Become Bulletproof to Abuse

The Art Of Plugging Vulnerabilities In Your Heart

Written by JH Simon

How to Become Bulletproof to Abuse

A healthy, happy, empowered human being does not sprout from the soil — they are a product of the consistent meeting of core needs.

Maslow’s hierarchy of needs covers this topic reasonably well, yet the following more nuanced list offers better clarity and depth:

Core Need Core Wound Resolution
Love I am unloved I am loved
Connection I am abandoned I am connected
Resilience I am weak I am strong
Significance I am not enough I am enough
Acceptance I will be rejected I am wanted
Legitimacy I am bad I am good
Worthiness I am unworthy I am worthy
Safety I am unsafe I am safe
Visibility I am unseen / unheard I am seen / heard
Competence I am stupid I am capable
Growth I am stuck I am developing
Desirability I am undesirable I am desirable

As you can see, core needs are always there, yet not always met. A core need can simply be passively neglected, or it can be actively betrayed. Not only...


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