The fact that you’re here means you’re onto something..
Maybe a particular event burst the bubble and a small gap opened up as a result. A gap in what, you’re not sure, but you felt it. It happened when a significant person in your life went that little bit too far, and you finally said to yourself: ‘This is not normal. Why am I tolerating this crap?’ You didn’t really know what normal was, but you knew that the union which you have with this person is definitely not it.
Through this small gap which opened up, you may have begun to realise some or all of the following about your relationship:
Then one thing leads to another, and you find yourself googling ‘Narcissistic Personality Disorder’. You read a few articles, and your jaw drops. After the initial shock wears off, you investigate further. It’s like your life story is being told to you. You begin to wonder: can this be true? Do people like this really exist? You read on. Finally, it hits you with full force. You realise that you’re not crazy; what you’ve been experiencing all this time is definitely real. People like this do exist. Not only do they exist in the world, they exist in your world.
You don’t know whether to laugh or cry. You feel rage, sadness and despair, and a little bit of relief. You walk around with a sense of lightness, but also with a sense of having been stained somehow. Your entire reality has been turned on its head. You start questioning your core instincts. You realise that the relationship dynamics which you accepted and took as gospel are both unhealthy and grossly manipulative. You start to look at people differently. You monitor their behaviour, even that of the people you have known for years or a lifetime. The picture is not entirely clear. What is clear, however, is that you have a problem with narcissists, and you’re only just waking up to it.
'How To Kill A Narcissist' and 'How To Bury A Narcissist' are for the targets of narcissism who:
I’m a writer from Melbourne Australia. Eight years ago I set out on a journey of self-discovery. Through gut-wrenching inner work, I found my authentic Self and full expression of who I am. With my passion for writing and desire to help people heal themselves from narcissistic relationships, I’ve gone on a transformational journey of growth and gratitude. From this six year process, two books: ‘How To Kill A Narcissist’ and ‘How To Bury A Narcissist,’ were born.
I am by no means a psychologist. My books are a byproduct of my own treacherous journey. Everything within them I’ve worked through myself, from learning and exposing the dynamics of emotional abuse, to healing and recovering from the effects of narcissism in my life.
My mission is to share everything I’ve learned through my mistakes, failures and triumphs. I hope the hard-earned ‘gold’ which came through this work supports you on your journey towards healing from a narcissistic relationship while finding wholeness and moving on for good.
© JH Simon